You don’t really want it
I remember a time period when I used to home-school my son. In one of these sessions – torment for my son- I noticed that he got stuck in one of the math problems. I, as an efficient teacher, would ask him to go back and do the lesson again. But he would insist on getting it wrong.
So, I would take the obvious step: I asked him to go back to the previous book, and learn the basics all over again, so that he could know where the mistake began. He would roll his eyes and speak through his teeth: “I don’t know where to begin.” I would take a deep breath and say: “I can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help himself.”
We make this mistake more frequently than you can imagine. We say we want something. But when someone puts us to the test, it becomes clear that it wasn’t exactly what we wanted.
We say we want to lose weight, but if people followed us 24/7, they would discover we don’t really want to lose weight that much. We say that we want to learn a new language, but then the same thing happens. We think we want something; but in it’s really not true. We’re simply deceiving ourselves into thinking that we want what’s good and important to us.
How embarrassing! When are we going to want something for real? When are we going to show how much we want something? When it’s too late?
My e-mail inbox is always full of messages asking for help, and they normally seem to say the same thing: “I want to change, but I’m not able to.” I feel like answering: “You can, but you don’t want to.”
P.S. I’m dieting this week. I have started at 138lbs. Next week, I’ll tell you how much I lost.
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.