It’s great to feel at home wherever we go! Whether it’s a new place, a new home or someone else’s home… I love feeling right at home when I arrive. That happens when “hospitable people” live there. I insist on staying with people that are at ease with us too. When I consider the possibility of meeting with someone, I begin to investigate more about what that person likes to talk about, her interests, personal taste and projects… Even if they turn out to be very different from mine, I make an effort to hold a conversation with her interests in mind, and I never leave her talking by herself.
Hospitality is a mix of: good manners, kindness, loving your neighbor and giving. If we put all these together, two words can be used to define it: TO SERVE. This must begin in our own home then extend to everyone we know, and then those we don’t know but soon will because of our hospitality. There are people that we’ve never seen before, yet once we have the opportunity to meet them- it seems as if we were separated at birth. That’s precisely because they allow us the liberty to laugh or cry, to joke around or be serious, to speak or keep quiet; in other words, the best part of being hospitable is when the other person feels comfortable around you.
It’s wonderful when we find a person that is hospitable without any second intentions; she simply has the pleasure of meeting the need of that moment and she doesn’t measure her efforts. She doesn’t cross the line, and she always surprises you by foreseeing your needs. When I have guests at home, I use a simple thermometer that lets me know if they feel comfortable: I tend to observe if they place their feet on the couch, ottoman or center table. I always expect them to feel at ease, as though they were in their own home.
I learned not to wait for an opportunity to serve someone, but to create opportunities to serve by being hospitable. Never wait for someone to ask you for something, always be ready to offer something, give, meet other people’s needs with a simple smile, a direct conversation, a tight hug, a wonderful stay, a delicious meal, a gift, a nice surprise, a clean and scented bed, and so many other things; to the point that when the moment to bid farewell arrives, your guest must stop and say: “Oh my, I already miss you!”
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.