Body vs Mind
We continue talking about “forgiveness.” For many this may be easy, normal, a Christian duty. For others, this may be something controversial – and for those that carry the pain of abuse within their soul, this may be a great challenge.
I tried to help you the best way I could – not by placing myself adjacent to your situation and talking about forgiveness as though it was something that I learned while sitting on a church bench; but as an example of someone who went through the same pain and came to an understanding that hatred hurts even more.
It was during that process which I discovered yet another truth that I’m going to share with you now: they are harsh words to hear or read, they are rude, and they are going to jab at your wound. You will bleed again; but, through forgiveness, your scars will heal once and for all. No matter who it was that abused or beat you, that person used your body, but don’t allow that person to use your mind. Once you train your thoughts, your emotions, and allow your life to revolve around what that person did, you are giving that person the liberty to use and manipulate your mind; as long as the world turns, your life will revolve around what happened and you will be giving the aggressor the power to condition your behavior: to take away your sleep and make you want to die.
Does that person deserve so much attention? Does he deserve to have your life revolve around him? Is it possible that the dirty words or humiliating words that he spat at you are, indeed, true?
I know, your answer is NO – and it comes biting back with an angry tone – but the truth is that you have given him the power to do all of that.
There is a war that has been waged between your flesh and your mind. Paul warned us about this battle in Romans 7:23. Your reason says “forgive,” but your flesh answers “resist.” Paul reveals that the result is “making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me,” which reflects your current state.
Free yourself from this self-made slavery. Forgive!
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.