Is valuing yourself a cliché?
“Know your worth!” We say and hear that phrase so often, that it has even become a cliché. Every time I say it on our show “The Love School,” in our marriage course, during counseling sessions or even on this blog, I get the feeling that I am speaking in another language. The question I see stamped on everyone’s face is: “How do I value myself?” And as much as I try to explain or paint a clearer picture, it’s as if I am presenting a lovely theory that is impossible to practice.
But God showed me something very interesting about this today…
“They followed worthless idols and became worthless themselves.” Jeremiah 2:5
This is the secret. This is the reason why many people find it so hard to value themselves.
Who is your idol? Who have you been trying to emulate? Who dictates how you should dress, behave and speak? Who are you constantly trying to imitate? If that person is anyone other than God, then you’re setting yourself up for failure. Of course I’m not saying that people of God can’t be used to help you and serve as references; but that’s the only purpose they serve – there is no reason to make these people your idols either.
At the very moment that you start to idolize someone, you lose your self-worth. Do you know why? Because you start comparing yourself to that creature. It’s like teens that idolize models and celebrities; they start dressing and losing weight like them and end up devaluing themselves. It’s like mature women that idolize young adults, as they compare themselves to younger women, their age makes them feel their self value goes down. In short…they follow worthless idols and become worthless themselves.
My value is found in Who I follow and believe in: the Lord Jesus. His value doesn’t rely on His appearance, fame or possessions. Since He is perfect, through His perfection He guides me and I end up becoming like Him. All of my self-worth is in Him and because of this, no one can undervalue me.
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.