You can’t live your present and your future based on the scars that remained as a result of that abuse. That’s nothing more than allowing a daily abuse to your emotions. Look, today you no longer suffer abuse, or, if you do, you now understand that there are ways through the law (and through organizations like Project Rahab) to put an end to this situation. Nonetheless, you still base your life on what happened.
Let’s do an exercise. Stand up wherever you are and start walking straight ahead but turn your head looking back. Did you try it? How many objects did you bump into? If it doesn’t work physically, much less will it work in the practice of life.
How many opportunities have you lost because you kept remembering what happened in the past: feeding an inferiority complex, saying that others are more capable than you because they never went through what you did; convincing yourself that you will never find a decent man with whom to construct a family and that your family is never going to accept you… Perhaps you are not even able to go on a job interview.
You go to church, perhaps you even have responsibilities there; you believe in God, but you don’t see yourself with a happy future, for the basis of everything you do today is your past. You don’t plan your future, not in all areas of your life because your past is what rules your mind. How to you erase the images trapped in your mind, or the scars that remain on your body or in your soul? How do you live Isaiah 43: 18-19?