Behold I make all things new
August 18, 2012 | By: Cristiane Cardoso | Posted in: Rahab
If you’ve already taken the first step and forgiven yourself, then you are ready to continue in this path.
You can’t live your present and your future based on the scars that remained as a result of that abuse. That’s nothing more than allowing a daily abuse to your emotions. Look, today you no longer suffer abuse, or, if you do, you now understand that there are ways through the law (and through organizations like Project Rahab) to put an end to this situation. Nonetheless, you still base your life on what happened.
Let’s do an exercise. Stand up wherever you are and start walking straight ahead but turn your head looking back. Did you try it? How many objects did you bump into? If it doesn’t work physically, much less will it work in the practice of life.
How many opportunities have you lost because you kept remembering what happened in the past: feeding an inferiority complex, saying that others are more capable than you because they never went through what you did; convincing yourself that you will never find a decent man with whom to construct a family and that your family is never going to accept you… Perhaps you are not even able to go on a job interview.
You go to church, perhaps you even have responsibilities there; you believe in God, but you don’t see yourself with a happy future, for the basis of everything you do today is your past. You don’t plan your future, not in all areas of your life because your past is what rules your mind. How to you erase the images trapped in your mind, or the scars that remain on your body or in your soul? How do you live Isaiah 43: 18-19?
Perhaps you already know those verses by heart; but in practice, you are not able to live in that novelty of life. First you have to want to change your mentality- that depends only on you.
Secondly, once you decide to face that change, there has to be closure to what happened. Next week I am going to write about “The End” but it will only work if you practice the first step: to want.
Cristiane Cardoso
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.
It’s true how can one accept to have a blessed future and move on when everything they do is based on the past ,it doesn’t work like that .I remember many times when I disappointed God,made a mistake and still dwelled on it I was never able to get close to God it didn’t matter how many times I asked for forgiveness .They only time I was able to receive forgiveness was when I was ready to forgive myself and move on so holding onto the past stops one from seeing what lies ahead of us.
Dear Ms Cris
Thank you for the message. New life starts from what we think or let me say , the result of my life is what is in my mind . If I don’t get rid of my past then my life will never go anywhere but instead it go from bad to worse.
God makes everything new but the question is , do I want everything to become new if the answer is yes , then I must start to think about new and positive things that will change om life
Thank you .
This first step is the case for every opportunity in life. I read Isaiah 43.18-19, God says He will make a way even in places where it unnatural to make a way, meaning everything we want to achieve becomes possible to us.
I can relate this this post alot as that is the way I used to think. I had the same mentality as that of the past and brought it with me to the present. Therefore I was unable to move forward in my life. Today its a different story as I have changed my mentality and my mind has a complete new mind set.
Dear Mrs. Cris, it is true what it is written above although it’s hard to practice but one has to do it. Many opportunities are lost because of holding back to the past. How am i going to see the light in front while i’m still focusing on the heavy storm behind? Obviously i will be trapped there forever.
Thank you.
I haven’t been in this type of situation but, I think it will greatly help girls that have passed through this situation. To forget about the past and always look forward.
It is so true Mrs Cristiane,
It is impossible to move forward when you are attached to the passed.
Your passed cannot determine your future that’s why it is called passed.
Planning is very important and gives goals to be reached to make our future better than what we experienced before.
Once a true man of God said to me “Once you look behind and return to your past and let it torment you, you are going to be all alone, your by yourself because God will not return back with you.”. Ever since then, i let go of everything, every pain or thought and reminder of the mistakes and sins i had committed and moved forward. Ever since making that decision, my life has been so much better.
If you could email me with some tips on how to forget and move on I would appreciate it dearly. Thank you!
i agree Mrs Cris, it’s difficult and almost impossible to be different if there is no willingness to change. We need, to want…thats when the process of change starts. I remember the word of God that says ” If you are WILLING and obedient, you will eat the best of the land,” Isaiah 1:19
God bless,
Sandra
Keeping our past in mind never moves us ahead,instead we start questioning ourselves why did this happen,if only i could go back in the past and change this(that’s what i was before,thinking that if only God would allow the time to go backwards)My past was mixed with good and bad things but i prefer my present because i have known God and i am much happier.I live by faith not by emotions.
Keeping our past in mind never moves us ahead,instead we start questioning ourselves why did this happen,if only i could go back in the past and change this(that’s what i was before,thinking that if only God would allow the time to go backwards)My past was mixed with good and bad things but i prefer my present because i have known God and i am much happier.
Thank you Mrs Chris for the helping message, cse i find the solutoin of my problem is to forgve my self abwt what i did in my past.
Dna. Cris let tell you, i’m loving reading you posts!!! Its actually fairly new to me but i’m enjoying learning new things and how to go about making the changes in my life, i love the way you write!* now referring to the post, there are times in my life where i feel incapable of doing things and i feel as though others have more capability than i do…and i never thought about it in the sense of being cause by my past* you have opened my eyes in that sense because i didnt see it that way before and now i do!!! And its as you said the first step to chance this is really to want!* and I WANT TO!!!*
))) Thank you again for all of your help* God bless*
We need to want things in our live in order to achieve it!
If there’s something in a shop that we like it or we are not that interested in, the the chances that we will buy it are very rare!
But if we want it and love what we see, then for sure we will by it or make a way to have it!
When we realize that we in order for us to have a better life we must do the nescery, then our lives will change!
Until then we just window shop, and we all know how horrible that is!