Pink Colored Cris
July 21, 2012 | By: Cristiane Cardoso | Posted in: Behavior, Spiritual Growth, Testimony
I was sitting having breakfast and reading some comments when one of them called my attention. It was from one of our “Love School” viewers who spoke bad about my husband for not allowing me to speak much during the program. At that very moment I felt sad because I knew that in reality it was me who didn’t like to speak much, sometimes I have a hard time expressing myself, only English words come to mind and I felt limited by the language. The comment showed me how I was generating a bad reputation for my husband…
Of course, he wasn’t even bothered by the comment. Like always, he gave me a word of encouragement and that was that. A few minutes later, I received a comment that brought tears to my eyes. I’ve transcribed it below. It’s for these people that I do what I do, I may not speak well, I may not express myself well, but there’s one thing that I’ll never stop doing and that’s: writing, talking and communicating what God has give me.
“Hello! Coming to your blog brings me much happiness and peace. I didn’t like you,I thought you wanted to portray to much sanctity, that your life was the most perfect, I didn’t look at you with good eyes and do you know why? Because I wasn’t converted, much less virtuous. I started reading your book because my mother insisted. I thought: ‘ What can I learn from someone that insists on demonstrating that her life is the color pink?”
Cris, every page read was a lesson about life and about you. I discovered that even being who you are, you had the same problems but there was a difference between me and you, your heart was rendered to God. I was always worried about my professional life, in becoming a respected nurse and stand out in my profession, I forgot about the most important thing: my salvation. !
I distanced myself from God, I went through a process of illness that no doctor could identify. I lost 6 kg kn 10 days, I was week and I realized that no degree was worth anything at that time. I realized that money had made me arrogant, proud and bossy.
While reading your book “The V-Woman,” I learned that I was the most unpleasant person on the face of the earth, I discovered that you don’t live in the pink world that I hat painted for you. I went on to love and admire you. I don’t know how my husband managed to live with me all of these 14 years that we have been together, for I humiliated him and hurt him in a despicable way.
Your book changed my life, my way of seeing the world and people. You taught me what is truly important: my salvation and my family. Now I’ve placed my family in first place. I am developing my homemaker skills with love and care and my family is different. They even appreciate the pudding that didn’t turn out all that well. Today I feel pleasure in being home, in being a wife and mother.
Cris, thanks for existing, thank you for sharing your life with me and showing me that in order to be a V-Woman, it is necessary for me to give my heart to God sincerely. Forgive me for thinking that you wanted to be perfect. In you book you say that you don’t want to be an example. I disagree. You are a mirror for me.
May God bless your life
A kiss in faith,
Kelly Ferreira
Cristiane Cardoso
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.
Dear Mrs Christiane,
Thank you for sharing. As a member I also used to think that pastor’s wifes are perfect. It was like a revelation to find out that they also have their daily battles. It makes my battle easier knowing that somebody has gone through that and overcame.
In regard to the comment, it’s easy to criticise when the person does not know all the details. Perhaps the lady read your blog and she feels ashamed now of what she wrote. I used to worry a lot of what people would say. It stopped me from being myself, from making independent decisions, from wearing certain clothes, it limited me until one day I heard a message at UCKG. The pastor said (I think it was your husband, I do not remember now) that it is impossible to please everybody. No matter what you do, there will always be someone critising you. He said that we should only focus on what God thinks about us and not on what people think (not in a bad way). That message helped me so much! It set me free.
And by the way, I really enjoyed the Love School in London and I do not mind who speaks AT ALL, whether it is you or BP Renato. The class was fantastic and beyond all my expectations! I cannot wait to have another one. Please come back this year. I don’t think I can wait until the next year.
God bless for all the good work!
The sincerity in that mail is strong and indeed your book has changed lives. Sometimes we are quick to throw stones and even hate those whose lives we wish we had, yet dont know how to achieve for ourselves. Only when one truly chnage from within does she realize that she can only be the best she was created to be, not cannot be someone else. Mrs. Cris, may God continue to use you to help us who definitely need to grow. May there be many more who realize that what you share about your life is not boastful but aimed at helping u avoid mistakes.
Mrs Cris,
Unfortunetly,in this world there are people who will never be satisfied, that person who criticised they did not come for their blessings, for sure, because when you know that the work that is done is from the Holy Spirit you don’t see mistake, in fact most people i have spoken to so far loved and enjoyed every minute of the Love School, it felt so short in fact! we love you still, you expressed your self better than any one from Cambridge would have done, you know why, because you did not do to please people but God! thank you for your time and we love you ! one criticize but 100′s / 1000 loved you more!
Thank you and keep it up!
Hello Mrs Cris
I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your words of inspiration it has awaken my soul. Sometimes we know these things and yet it’s like we need a reminder and that God that he used you it could not have been said any better.
I above all wants to be this woman that God can count on to make a difference in this world. As you rightly said in the world we were bold, courageous, fighters nothing we want we won’t get and now that we have God we become timid. This is so true, I feel like that especially in the times I should fight because I know who is with me. I refuse to be defeated, scared, fearful and all those things that belongs to the devil.
I want to assume my faith, put all my dependence on God and go ahead and conquer for the Kingdom of God. Remember me in your prayers. May God continue to richly bless and inspire you.
Love Jennifer
woow. this is very touching. because there are been times when i thought all the Bishops and Pr’s wives were perfect. And to be honest, I wanted to be like one of them soo much that my focused was with drawn from God and i was putting up a front that was not me! Now been reborn i can fianlly say its al bout you been you! when i look at mrs cris you’re such an example, and also i must say. My mum does not attend the uckg but, she came to Pledge night in the uk and they were giving away free V-woman books for new comers, she got one and ever since that she has really changed! Now shes looking after herself! shes getting her hair done and nails and shes speaking pleasantly to me and others. im still observing her an i will keep you updated on her changes! thankyou soo much
Much love and kissess x
That the power of God. He change a serial killer to be His servant, change prostitute to be a woman of God. This lady through her testimony she going to bring soul to God. Bad eyes towards other people are not good, they will bring distraction in your life. Really V women book brought huge differrnts in many women’s lives.
Thank you.
Precious Mazwi
Wooow….
This book hasn’t only helped Kelly, but it also helped thousands of women, like me, who thought that they were just one more in the world and had no skills, but after reading it, saw that all we had and we were has been hidden behind that sickening shyness and today, I’m proud to say that I’m no longer shy and I have discovered a lot about myself that I never knew…..
Thank you Mrs Cris….
With love
Wow. That is amazing. Well Mrs. Cris, I don’t know which love school this person is talking about if it was in London, and if it was I was there, although you did not speak much but what you shared help me a lot as a single young lady. Well I guess people will never be satisfied with whom we are.
But thank you for posting this.xx
Dear Mrs Cris
I was reflecting on the meeting we had on Saturday with the V Women and thank God so much for using you all these years to bless my life.
I remember when you were in Fimsbury Park.in 1996/1997. At the time I always wanted to come and speak with you as my “Spiritual Mother” that you have been all these years.. but I was TOO SHY… not realising that you were also shy……. Sometimes I would start to walk towards you but stopped. I use to think who am I to be speaking to this Holy Woman of God ….but later on I realised that I allowed shyness and the devil to imoede me with doubts, not forgetting the many insecurities especially the emotional ones!!!!.
When I think with intelligence, I believe God wanted to use you then to speak with me, to give me a word of faith in those hard moments during my conversion as I was fighting to regain my self-confidence, but you know Mrs Cris, God answered all the prayers and sacrifices that you and Bishop made for me/us and this has helped me to persevere and become stronger in my Faith with Our Lord.
I am becoming a better Woman of God because of the inspiration He gave to you for this Special Group together with all the messages and actions of my Faith in God ….I see myself as one of the seed of faith that is growing through the tasks, month my month.
My Spiritual life is growing more and I find that my Family constantly refers to the peace they see within me through my actions.
My sincere desire is to do more in the work of God for souls. Too many people are hurting as I was in the past.
The shyness tries to come in at times but after receiving this message on Saturday, it is a reminder and shows very clearly that The Holy Spirit wants His boldness to be shown through my life to be His reference as I am here on this earth. Mrs Cris .. I am smiling… because I have just realised that as I write this comment I am already overcoming and being bold…..I have never spoken about this before.
May God continue to bless you and use you and your Family so much more to honour Him..
With love and a huge HUG
Beverley xxx
When reading these testimonies there is something that always comes to my mind ans that is ‘there are those people/women who are courageous enough to confess their feelings about you Mrs Chris/others as well. and as we are always taught about sincererity in the church this is a good practice.
People can be so mean, I have been learning recently. I doubt that they would like to see you be bossy and dominate your husband. At the end of the day it is your marriage, you do as you please. each to their own.
What a beautiful testimony. It’s good to read this . I too would like to say may God use you more and more to saves my more souls. Mwahs Mrs Cristiane.
Good morning Christiane,
Don’t let spiteful people upset you, as you say, and important to remember Christiane, it is all about the eyes. This woman could have equally considered that maybe you were very tired, people do get tired don’t they, I think just a little bit of twisted jealousy sprang out there dear, and that is not your problem. There is nothing wrong with your husband and nothing wrong with you or the way you relate to each other, Look my dear, you are out there saving marriages, kicking the devil in the backside every single day, teaching people who want to learn and in turn they will help others, it goes on and on, all this good work, of course the devil is going to have a pop at you!! your too flippin good lady!
Both of you Rock!
Have a lovely day and fab, fluffy week!
HelenXXX
Don’t forget to keep upsetting the creep!
Love this comment, and it is very true. God has used you to answer the prayers of those women who want to honor God, know Him, become His daughters, and yet were confused and could not find their way.
May God protect you and strengthen you more and more. Every day is a new battle.
Mrs. You are amazing! I thank God for you. You are always appreciated.