Men that let their wives win the fight just to have peace
When I was a child, my sister would many times throw herself on the floor and scream untill she got what she wanted. It was an absurd and irritating scene, most often in public so that everyone would pity her and misjudge my mother. As much as we may not like to admit it, we must confess that many times us women do the same thing in our marriage, even though we don’t throw ourselves on the floor or yell in public. Let’s be honest- women know how to be annoying.
Whenever we want something and our husband doesn’t want to give it to us, we find a way to get it, even if that means we have to nag him all week. You and I know that in the end, when he gets tired of denying us what we are asking, he will end up saying “yes”- even if only to restore the peace at home.
It embarrases me to say this about us women: How can we be so sweet and at other times so irritating? The very moment someone denies us something that we want, we transform from a sweet and kind woman to a manipulative and bothersome one. And what’s even worse is that we begin to generalize. “You never do anything to please me” or “You never let me do anything” or the below the belt comment: “So and so’s husband would definitely do that for her.” Who amongst us has not do this at one time or another? You, me, all of us.
That’s how a man begins to resent his wife. He goes on to involve himself less and less in household decisions because he feels that his opinion, in reality, doesn’t count. You might think that he is being good to you but if he were honest, he would tell you that he feels ignored, not respected, manipulated and used. Slowly but surely this type of behavior as a wife will end up destroying your marriage.
Ask but don’t be annoying. If he says no, give him time si that he feels a desire to give you what you asked. Any husband that loves his wife also likes pleasing her. You want him to feel pleasure in giving you what you ask, not pain.
PS. Do you suspect that your husband is giving you things just to maintain the peace? Do you insist two, three, or more tiems because you know that in the end he will give you what you ask? Share you experience with me in the comment section below.
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.