The time chaser
May 30, 2012 | By: Cristiane Cardoso | Posted in: Family, Marriage, Strength, Time Management, Work of God, Youth
“How do you manage to get everything done?” people ask me from time to time but the truth is that I don’t do everything I ever did. Let me explain better…
Many things I used to do when I was younger and immature, I don’t need to do anymore, or at least not in the same way. When we are inexperienced, everything takes longer and nothing is as practical as it is to other people. To iron a shirt, we take hours. To clean a house, we take the whole day. To get ready, we try on almost the whole wardrobe and even so we are still not satisfied with the results. All is harder and slower. And this is where many fail…
In your immaturity, you compare yourself with more experienced women. “If she is able to, why shouldn’t I be able too?”
Then your fight against time begins. You want to do everything the other one does although you’re not around her age and don’t have the same experience as her! I remember a pastor’s wife who used to get upset because she couldn’t manage all she had to do at home and in the church. She lived with another pastor’s wife who was able to manage it all and even more than her. We sat to chat and I saw her frustration straight away and so I asked her: “Do you think it’s fair that you compare yourself to someone who is 40 and married for 20 years, when you are not yet 30 and only married for 10 years?
It’s these and other comparisons that overload our faith because it ends up destroying the little we build daily. If you find yourself worse than the other, you will, subconsciously, also act worse than her. The more that frustrated wife would complain about her inabilities, the slower she would become. As soon as she stopped comparing herself with others and started doing things in a way that worked for her, everything changed.
There’s time for everything. The important thing is to let time work for you instead of chasing after time. Yesterday, I did things that I no longer need to do today and today I do things that I will no longer need to do tomorrow. The important thing is to grow, to get better, and to do what no one else can do in your present situation – the rest, who knows if you won’t be able to do it tomorrow?
Cristiane Cardoso
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.
Wow! Mrs Cris.
This post it has really blessed me.
I sometimes find myself in that situation & even say to myself if I can’t manage it now I wount be able to manage it in there near future indeed chasing after time, everything has its own time & the Bible says that many times.
This is so powerful, Wow.
Thank you so much.
Hi Dona! I learned that if we have many things to do we must do it now we must not posponing in doing it because it will get harder for us to do it.
Thank you Mrs Cris
For this massage this is an eye opener to. Me
i always had this same kind of thoughts!” If she can why can’t i” and with that i was feeding this thought that ” see it’s because you are weak in your faith” and because i did not know how to think properly i mean i could not see clearly and i ended accepting that thought.
However, this month i learned how to handle one thing at a time and how to know what God wants me to do first
I pray for the strength to put this message into acrion and consideration because many times I have been warned about the danger of competing with others and self comparison as I always end up doing things that other people do.
Thank you Mrs Cris.
I remember one of this fine days I ask the same question,but I thank you now I know that the important thing is to grow to get better and to do what no one else can do in your present situation
And there is time for everything. Thanks
Hi Mrs Cris
thank you SO MUCH for this post,its like you wrote it specially for me.
I also find myself 80% of the time comparing myself to my mom,wanting to be like her,just so there wont be any complains about me and to look good offcourse!But something that i always try to ignore,even though its true is that im very SLOWWW and my mom is totally fast,she can multi-task that one n manage to finish on time and do extra,but me…its requires the whole day,including some hours at night to multi-task.
You spoken to me today,im NOT my mom,i cant be her.im me and i should do things to beat my time,the time that im faced-up with.
Thanks Mrs Cris.
Thanks alot Mrs Cris for the post I also used to compare myself to other people in my church, in the way the dress, their achievements and used to be angry for being unable to be at their level, but thanks to someone who taught me never to compare myself to other ladies. Why do I have to be the same for I am unique and I am the firstfruits of God and therefore He will provide everything I need.
Thanks for that. What I also see for myself is that discipline and consistence plays a big part of how I use or lose time. I am working on being consistent. God bless you. Hephzibah(Willesden Green)
Oh my!
I REALLY needed this message, its an eye-opener. I will start to apply what I have learnt.
Thank you Mrs Cris.
This helped me a lot. But I keep trying, always, to be more than I am able to be. Even doing the Challenge, I want always to do something diferent and I keep telling me I have to be better, sometimes I feel frustrated. But you remembered me that I can´t. Thank you.
This makes so much sense to me because I know that I have often compared myself to those who are my leaders and have more experience than me in everything and would wonder why I was not able to do all that they did. Thank you for sharing Mrs Cris this is an eye opener.
It is true mrs cris most of the time we compare ourselves with the others because we dont want to feel as if we are failures, we want to be perfect if though we know there is no one who is perfect. The other thing is to keep on posponing things. Things that you were suppose to do today you keep them for tomorrow.
Hi Mrs Cris
Thank you for sharing the information above.Its very true now I know why I sometimes seem to think that the day is never enough or that I am not doing much.Because I compare myself to those whom have been at it for a longtime,when I have just started.Now I know that I shouldnt work to chase time,I should let time work for me.Then with this I will definately grow to get better!!
Thanks again Mrs Cris
GoD bLESS
Wow thank you very much Mrs Chris for this message it is very strong and i feel that it will help me from today on wards to grow into becoming a better young lady by using my time to work for me instead of chasing time. Have a blessed afternoon.
love lee