The time chaser
“How do you manage to get everything done?” people ask me from time to time but the truth is that I don’t do everything I ever did. Let me explain better…
Many things I used to do when I was younger and immature, I don’t need to do anymore, or at least not in the same way. When we are inexperienced, everything takes longer and nothing is as practical as it is to other people. To iron a shirt, we take hours. To clean a house, we take the whole day. To get ready, we try on almost the whole wardrobe and even so we are still not satisfied with the results. All is harder and slower. And this is where many fail…
In your immaturity, you compare yourself with more experienced women. “If she is able to, why shouldn’t I be able too?”
Then your fight against time begins. You want to do everything the other one does although you’re not around her age and don’t have the same experience as her! I remember a pastor’s wife who used to get upset because she couldn’t manage all she had to do at home and in the church. She lived with another pastor’s wife who was able to manage it all and even more than her. We sat to chat and I saw her frustration straight away and so I asked her: “Do you think it’s fair that you compare yourself to someone who is 40 and married for 20 years, when you are not yet 30 and only married for 10 years?
It’s these and other comparisons that overload our faith because it ends up destroying the little we build daily. If you find yourself worse than the other, you will, subconsciously, also act worse than her. The more that frustrated wife would complain about her inabilities, the slower she would become. As soon as she stopped comparing herself with others and started doing things in a way that worked for her, everything changed.
There’s time for everything. The important thing is to let time work for you instead of chasing after time. Yesterday, I did things that I no longer need to do today and today I do things that I will no longer need to do tomorrow. The important thing is to grow, to get better, and to do what no one else can do in your present situation – the rest, who knows if you won’t be able to do it tomorrow?
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.