Little Miss Perfect
May 25, 2012 | By: Cristiane Cardoso | Posted in: Behavior, Spiritual Growth, Strength
“How is so and so?”
“Well, she is a lovely person. She is an example, she doesn’t talk much, and when she does, she is so discrete. I have never seen anything wrong in her.”
Have you ever heard a person talking about someone this way? Of course, we shouldn’t talk about those we don’t know but as for those around us, is it really possible not to see anything wrong with them? I don’t think so. It’s not that we have evil eyes or that we are just looking for mistakes to point out, but it’s impossible for someone to be perfect. Now and again, a mistake will surface. But when you can’t see these mistakes…the problem is another one, someone is hiding their mistakes – and that’s a bad sign.
If you are the kind of person that hides your mistakes, you actually end up making more mistakes because deep down, you want people to see you in a certain way. Deep down, you want to be Little Miss Perfect.
Little Miss Perfect is usually right in her own eyes and she is always pleasing people. She is a question mark. We never know what’s happening inside her. She pretends to be well so much that she actually forgets her true personality. These are the kind of people that out of the blue, end up falling badly and disappointing everyone by an enormous mistake because they just got tired of pretending to be perfect. And then everyone says: “I never ever expected this from her! She really deceived me big time!.”
We all fail and make mistakes. The more sincere we are, the more we mould ourselves. The more we expose ourselves, the more transparent we are, the easier it is for us to go through a total change. Imagine how hard it must be for Little Miss Perfect to keep on being “perfect” the whole time. Sooner or later she will get tired and then, it’s just too late to be like every earthly being such as us…
Even the Bible doesn’t hide the mistakes of its heroes of faith which by the way are our role models as women and men of God. How come, Little Miss Perfect wants to be an example then?
Let’s be truthful in everything, even in our weaknesses. I make mistakes, you make mistakes, he/she makes mistakes, we make mistakes, they make mistakes – Period.
Cristiane Cardoso
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.
The truth is that the more we try to be what we are not the more frustrated we will become and in the end we will crack because we were not sincere. when we acknowledge our mistakes that will be a lesson learned. But if we try to be perfect we wont see any need to change anything cause we are already perfect.
Thanks ms. cris
This has helped me re-affirm who I am in Christ while I am committed to becoming more like Him.
His personality is balanced. I can be all He desires me to be. Humility and sincerity are key here.
Thank you Mrs C!!!!
Dear Mrs Cris
Thank you for sharing with us this message, it is very true. There is no need for us to hide our mistakes, because we learn through them, now if we are hiding them, what good is it because it wont help us grow. we do not have to do things to please other peolpe but to please God.
Its so true Mrs Cris because many are those who do whatever it takes to pretend being perfect and their end is always terrible. Food for thought indeed. And we should remember this that we are not here to please others but to be pleasing before God.
That you Mrs Cris you this message
God Bless you…..
I would never have thought of this… thank you very muchh!
Dear Mrs Cristiane. Indeed no one is perfect and its impossible to please everyone on contrary pretending is not an option its just a waste of time and slaving a person. Thanks
Dear Mrs Cristiane .Indeed no one is perfect and its impossible to please everyone on contrary pretending is not an option its just waste of time and slaving a person.
Hi Mrs.Cris! All of us are not perfect and no one are perfect except God. We must be always true and sincere in ourselves because if we are sincere we are humble also. We must show the real us because if we will gonna have double personality it will be very difficult for us to change.
Wow
Food for thought indeed. There is so much I could add on to the above ,because more often than rarely I become that “little Miss Perfect” and truth be told ,that little Miss Perfect in me scares me because she just tries by all means not to put a foot wrong and when she does make an honest mistake she tends to beat herself about it ,but theres a Father that is always there to remind us why we are here and how our living will be, we not here to please others but to be pleasing before God.
Thanks Mrs. Cris for this word of warning…We make so many mistakes as women and more often, we want people to see only how good we are and because of this, we endup doing things in a way that destroys our inside and eventually outside too…This is so powerful.
Mrs Cristiane!
This post describes me perfectly, especially the bit that says “she actually forgets her true personality”. All my life, wherever I go, if I am at home I please my family, at church, school, you name it! The truth is I am afraid of people seeing my mistakes and flaws, especially at church as I think they will look down on me and think I need “help”. I’m the type of person who knows my flaws but prefers to keep them under wraps and only expose them if they really bug me. I can’t bear for people I don’t know to know the true me and see that I am not so perfect. The problem with this is because I try to appear to be all ‘smiley, perfect, happy.etc’ when I do make a mistake, I look like the biggest deciever in the world.
This post is serious and its the truth because trying to be Little MIss Perfect is a big issue, it can make you forget who you are!
Thank you so much for this post Mrs. Cristiane.
Thank you Mrs Cris
for the post I have to confess that I have been pretending to be little miss perfect whenever I made mistakes I woud not want people to know about them I would pretend as if everything is perfect in my life I thank you alot for the post now I have learnt that I can never be perfect I just have to be myself.
thank you so much miss Cris
i feel that i was also acting like this not realising how i was making my life so difficult. i pray that god may give me strength to change. god bless
Hi Cristiane, Thank you for this message. This is going to help a lot of girls and women who are new in the faith.
Its so true many are those who do whatever it takes to pretend being perfect and their end is always terrible
Because when they are tired nothing realy matters anymore.
Thanks Mrs Cristiane for this message
Good morning Christiane,
Thank you for the above! And as you have said before many times, it is important that we learn from our mistakes. I have recently had to ask God himself to step in for me and resolve the situation.
When you are fighting with all kinds of things, this is the only way. On the other hand, I improved some things and got better prepared for the right one, I did a couple of campaigns of my own! and I am richer for that, I don’t think a campaign to improve anything especially if you ask for humbleness that has to be good.So I got what I asked for in a way, just publically, that’s all!
And it’s true Christiane about being all wrong but looking perfect on the outside, faithwise, people are wrong alot, their attitude, their negative words, their false behaviours, you can’t be like that knowing that God can see into your heart and can hear you gossiping, if it’s not someone it’s the people above or below, or shape, their work, they are never happy, they don’t ask the lord for unity, just what they want for their life, and that is many mistakes whilst being perfect. I don’t care if |I fall and show my underwear, I will get up, dust off, gather in my mind what i learned and move on because I know what The Lord has promised me and standing on the side lines heckling like people watching a bad show, doesn’t make you brave, or help the lord change anything!
God bless petal, Have a wonderful day,Big Love HelenXXX