How to give affection
May 23, 2012 | By: Cristiane Cardoso | Posted in: Behavior, Dating, Family, Friendship, Marriage
There are many ways one can give affection and you don’t have to be fake about it either. I see the demonstration of affection like this:
- To look at someone in an understanding way when she makes a mistake
- To smile at people more often
- To greet people with a smile
- To give a gift when it’s not a person’s birthday
- To take initiatives to help people
- To be considerate towards people. No one is the same
- To hug someone from time to time
- To stroke your friend’s hair or shoulder when talking to her
- To send an affectionate email, sharing good news
- To take photos together showing your friendship and care for a person
- To do to others what you would love someone to do for you
- To give compliments whenever possible
- To teach in a patient way
- To pray for people
- To correct people when needed
- To share good news
- To help your mother with the household chores
- To do her nails or her hair
- To prepare a special meal for the whole family
- To make an effort to be present even if you don’t have much time
- To show an interest in your friend’s news
- To be feel happy when she is happy; to feel sad when she is feeling sad
- To show affection out of the blue
- To kiss your husband or your family members when arriving and when leaving home
- To speak well of them to everyone
- To like what your husband likes, to cheer for his team, to sit close to him
- To always share your day with your husband or family
I give up! It’s not possible to write here every way of showing affection…But I think you’ve got an idea of what it is, right?
Cristiane Cardoso
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.
Ah Miss Cristiane I get the picture and its clear I need to be consistent and I am working on that. I decided to call my sister more frequently and arrange for us to do things together. I was able to do just that on Tuesday 29th May, 2012. In the almost 3 years of attending church Ive always shared with my sister what Ive learnt, she’d listen and reply, ‘I’m glad you’ve fiound a place to settle’. Invitations to come were always turned down for various reasons. Last week in a conversation with my sister I casually invited her to come with me to church to pray for her wellbeing. Although I pray for my siblings every Thursday nevertheless she amazed me with her unexpected response. ‘I’ll see’. I could hardly wait for the week to come to confirm she’d be coming. Sure enough she came to the 10am service. I had already planned to make it a whole day out with her, so afterwards we went shopping and ended up in a restaurant where she shared her heart, I listened, encouraged her and hugged her. On parting we both agreed we need to do it more often. I determine that, WE WILL!
It’s great having a great place like UCKG where every area of one’s life is touched and transformed. I feel proud to invite my family, friends and whoever will accept the invitation. ‘
I know what is happening to me will happen to them. May God’s face shine on you all
Thank you for your teaching because most of us we dont show affection especialy to our friends we forget to tell them how special they are. Atleast I learned something in this msg.
It is true Mrs Cristian,affection is all about sacrificing for others putting ourselves in their shoes.
Dear Mrs cristian,in other words giving affection is all about understanding a person,being there for him or her in good and bad times.
If you give, you will receive, according to measure. Today out of my comfort, I finally took a picture(many) with my friend. It felt great because it put a smile on both our faces. Still shy to take pictures but for my friend……..God bless you Mrs Cristiane
Hi Mrs. Cris
Thanks for giving us these ideas, showing the true us in giving affections will also be a great blessing for others….
Hi Mrs.Cris! Thank you for this, it helped me a lot. I’m up to the challenged.
Tank you Mrs for the tips and reminding of the importance of being affectionate
Dear Mrs Cris
It is very wise that at all times we show affection towards others…sometimes somehow a smile can heal or give hope to others.
In faith
Fortunate(RSA)
Thank you so very much for these tips because I think they will bring a change in our way of showing affecting
Thank you Mrs Cris.
You couldn’t have said it better. This shows the character of God in a person.
Thank You Mrs Cris for sharing the ways in which we can give affection to others! I think this should be read by many people because most of the time people interpret an affection to a friend in a wrong way,like when u say “To stroke your friend’s hair or shoulder when talking to her” it is not wrong to do that but people who people who never had that may not understand! Your Posts are really helplful and reading them everyday has really helped me in so many ways! Thank you!
Hello Mrs Cris, last week we had a very important meeting about of code of sisterhood and one of them is to be pleasant, all the tips here we talked about them, it was mention that a simple smile can make a difference in someone’s life. Which is true, because i have seen people who just smile at me for no reason and I felt worthy and i believe if I do the same to other, I will make a big difference in their lives. Than you
Thanks Mrs Cris for the tips, very good and inspiring..
Kisses….