So what do women really want anyway?
Yesterday, the online daily program we make called ‘The Love School’ was quite productive, especially for us women, though a lot of men have now a new perspective of what we want. Through the many comments we got for the program, it was obvious that the subject in question is quite an enigma for us all: ‘what do we really want?’
The problem is, when we don’t really know what we want, we can’t really fight for it.
No my darlings, it’s not to be loved. Many women are loved and still, don’t feel satisfied. No, it’s not to be respected either for many who are respected are sad too.
It took me awhile to discover this for myself. This tardiness really disrupted my life because I’d create problems where there were none, especially in relation to myself. You who follow this blog for a couple of years now, know this quite well.
It was only when I recognized that I was insecure, that I could understand myself. We’ve written a couple of posts about this subject, but it seems that it’s that kind of topic that can never end and you know why? Because our insecurities need to be dealt with on a daily basis.
The insecurity you overcame last month has now taken another form and you need to deal with it today in this new version. And there we go, for the rest of our lives. The female nature carries this weakness and our other heavy burden called emotions just fuels it even more.
And so what do women want anyway? We want security. That’s why we’re constantly looking for appreciation, praises, care, friendship, respect, admiration, and love. Because we give hardly any of these things to ourselves, we demand it from others. In my case, I’ve changed quite a lot, but still, my insecurities find ways to manifest themselves differently every time. If I relax about this, forget it – they’ll take over my life again.
That’s why I fight in faith daily. When emotions that feed these insecurities come my way, I’ve a habit of rejecting them. Bad news come and these insecurities speak in an almost audible voice. I repeat the same over and over again ‘It’s tied up! God is with me, His promises are true, who can defeat Him?’
Besides this, I fill myself with the Words of God. I couldn’t care less about what’s happening in the world, ask me what came out in the news yesterday and I’ll tell you ‘don’t know, don’t care’. Celebrities get married and get divorced, and I normally find out way later than everyone else in the world. I don’t follow news that are irrelevant to me, that’s all. I know that many people like to be informed, and I’m not judging them. If the news don’t harm them – great! In my case, it doesn’t help.
The more I feed myself from what comes from above, less insecurity I have, and more faith I acquire. This is my secret. This is my husband’s secret. This is the secret of our marriage. Want some of this banquet? Go after it!
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.