The contrarian-rebelliousness
March 9, 2012 | By: Cristiane Cardoso | Posted in: Behavior, Children, Family, Personal me, Uncategorized
When my family moved to New York and we started school, I was shocked by the rebellious attitude my classmates had towards everyone and everything. They walked around with a long face, rudely back talked to the teachers and the lack of respect towards their parents scared me. I was born and raised in a Christian home, where good values and principles were always practiced. My sister and I didn’t have everything we wanted and yet, we were not rebellious. We did not question our mom and dad; they always had the last word. We were regular teenagers, not rebels.
Why is it that all teenagers go through a rebellious phase, like if it’s something normal that parents and society expect from them nowadays? They want to do what they think is best – it seems as if they know what they’re doing. They like to ignore their parents, who have much more experience in life. They rather look up to other teenagers who don’t know anything. Sincerely, this is ignorance!
Apart from the obvious that parents do not deserve to be treated like this and God is against this type of behavior, the only ones that lose out in the long run are the teens themselves. This rebelliousness brings suffering and it follows a person even after marriage.
When a young woman is rebellious with her parents today, she will be a problematic wife tomorrow. If she’s a good daughter then chances are she’ll be a good wife. The same applies for young men.
So while the world tells us that we should be rebellious, I find it foolish of those who do not take advantage of opportunities to learn from those who know best. If you’re young, you were born yesterday and consequently, you should try learning from those who were born before you. If you think that you have to be rebellious in order for people to respect your personality, it’s because you still don’t have one.
Cristiane Cardoso
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.
I use to be a very rebellious teenager growing up,little did I know that my rudeness would not just affect me at home but it began to rreflect in my evveryday life aswell. Until ofcourse I had an eencounter with God but what iss ironic is that parents also tend to comfort themselves by thinking and believing”its a stage” or “it’ll pass” but like you said if you grow up a rebellious child chances are you gou gonna turn out a rebellious wife. Yet parents could instill a more disciplined approach to a rebelious child,for the results of a more disciplined annd matured woman.
When I became rebellious,my mom did nothing but tighten the rules in thee home to make me the young woman I am today.
Pledge Candidate,Durban,South Africa
Thank you very much for this insightful message. Its always good to be reminded that peoples approval to the way we act and lead our lives should not determine our ways and actions as believer and followers of Christ.
thats so true mrs cristiane rebellion teenagers has become source of family separation,sucidae,and many more problems i pray for all the woman who are going through this face
Very interesting topic Mrs. Cris. Really nowadays the rebellliousnes of teens seems to be something normal and even some parents do not see it as an issue as they will say its because of new technology/ new generation not knowing that “God is against this type of behavior and it will bring suffering and it follows a person”
Thank you
The young generation of today nolonger have respect for their parents and i think when that happens it show that you as a young person,you don’t have any respect for yourself either. When you respect your parents it show that you are obeying God!
Straight to the point, I will do the same Mrs Cris and most probably will share this post with everyone that I know.
Rebellion is a very dangerous poison that one can attract to her/his life, it kills ones life sofly without that person even noticing.
Thank you once again for sharing with us.
Totaly agree with you Mrs Cristiane, i am a mother of three young men and i can proudly thank God for giving us his wisdom to bring them up his own way. I have never had any complaints from there teachers since there early years st school till now but instead praises from teachers who always wished they had at least 10 of children with such behavier in there classes: i tell you hearing this as a mother i am sure all mothers reading this you feel that joy i feel, because this is the joy of a parent. I am not saying my boys a perfect but but for then to be who they are we had to teach them Gods priciples and values from the very young age and as the grew older we keept explaining the reasons why and also showing them conseques and examples in the bible, this is so very important and i tell you it works especially when you allow God to be your partner:
These days indeed it seems that parents are even giving up on kids by using or blaming the society aand goverment, indeed societ has changed in a cery bad way, but if i may ask who is the societ? It’s us righr, si we can still change things around if you start educating our children from home like that saying that says( charity begins at home) so very true.
Thanks Mrs Cristiane obce more for sharing and inspirations.
Carol Odukoya
Thanks Mrs Cristiane, as a former rebellious teen i regret all my years wasted being rebellious to my parents and to the word or God… Like you said i knew exactly what i was doing and chose to because i felt it made me an individual instead of just one more . This behavior made me loose out on a lot of opportunity and wasted a lot of time on thing that only led to the path of destruction. I only wish young people would learn from our mistakes instead of making the same mistakes over and over again. God is so merciful because in spite of all my wrongs He didn’t give up on me , he gave me a chance to start all over a gain.
Thanks Ms Cristiane for the post. In this day we should look for the examples we have in our lives as a woman who made the difference. And as an example I would like to talk about my mother, that taught me everything I know. A woman who educated seven children without anyone, holding the barriers of life and overcame all difficulties. Since I was a child she taught me how to behave myself, and the most important, she brought me to the church, making me also a woman of God.
Thanks Mrs Cris
My mother is the woman who made a difference in my life, by the way she behaved herself in the family, with our father, she was hardworking waking up at 4am to start her day, she taught me to pray to God for everything I needed, and never to answer back when rebuked for something by her or any other parent, to respect people, always to see good in others, yes I had my mistakes but she had her ways to talk to me. she would encourage me, if I’m dissapointed by something she would make me to understand and help me to stand up again. Mostly she was a woman of prayer she never forget to speak to God even one day. Today I still see her teachings in me, but she is no longer alive for me to tell her, but she knows where she left me in the hands of God( in God’s house) I’m still there until this day. Thank you Mom….
Hi Mrs Cris
Thank you for the post, I realy disaprove of the rude behaviour that most teens have towards their parents and even themselvs. Yet now I understand the seriousness of it as it effects ones future greatly and this is what we as teens need to understand. It is not too late for us to change our behaiuor and also show other teens the right way with our personality. Everything we need is from God, how we should be. I have to thank those women of God who helped me.
Thank you
Thanks Mrs Christiane, It’s true that in the outside world to be a rebel it’s something normal but we find it very strange when we now are among them. The world is really turning apart, youth have no respect for elders but i believe by being a good example out there one can influence many. Let us stay on God’s ways and not be influenced by the world but instead ask God to use to bring them into His Kingdom.
Thank You.
Mrs Cris
I love elderly woman,because I learn from them a lot. I remeber when I was an helper in my church (2002) one of the elderly assistant told me never to wear my uniform with odd shoes like the shoes that are not for my uniform since then I learn and I understood how untidy is to wear with other shoes, I respect her for that till today.
Your blog at times rebukes me at times it confirms what I also beleive in. I can start my day without it.
Thank you for God to use you.
Nokuthula
I agree teenagers should not rebel against their parents because it has very bad results but I understand why most teenagers go through and why they act the way they do. Most people have a painful past and when you do not know Jesus it is hard to deal with so you act out and this situation may not be a financial problem. I was raised by a single father and he gave me and my sisters most things we wanted and sent us to the school we wanted but that did not bring joy a lasting joy and did not take away the pain of losing my grandmother and being left by my mother when me and my sister when we were babies. The only thing i can say is that Jesus can take away the pain and the rebelious behaviour then can go away.
You’re right, my sister would always tell me that my parents know best because they have more experiance in life. As for me, I didn’t care what she said. I thought I was always right, and I didn’t want to hear what anyone had to say. I’m sure this post will change the way young girls/boys think.