Increasingly tighter
March 3, 2012 | By: Cristiane Cardoso | Posted in: Beauty, Behavior, Etiquette, Personal me
All of us know how tiring may be to buy a new pair of jeans. It gets harder year after year. I remember when I bought my first Levi’s, I was still a teenager and it fit me perfectly, although my size at that time was the smallest of all… I had only that one and it would match with almost everything I had. Nowadays, the jeans are too low, too short, too loose or too tight. After trying the 15th jeans and think “No choice, I will have to buy this one”, the saleswoman came across with three more pairs and was bold enough to say ‘you have to try a tighter one, the one you want is too loose.’ That’s what you get when you want to wear items that are suitable to your body. All of a sudden you become old-fashioned. What happened to that main idea of wearing something to cover? Instead of this, fashion has been more to dress and show off. I imagine how it is going to be in 10 years time, will clothes still exist? I am person who always asks myself the reason why of many things and I think women should ask themselves why fashion has become so sexy. Is it for us to be more beautiful or is it to call the wrong kind of attention? You decide. Sexy is not elegant at all, see the picture above. She could even be without those jeans, after all what’s the difference? It doesn’t take much to imagine this young lady without her clothes. For more posts about what is elegant for a woman who values herself for what she is and not for what she has, click here.
Cristiane Cardoso
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.
Hey Mrs.Cris,
Well this is very much an eye opener because I hace seen the difference in the way clothes are made but I have never stopped to think why.
Buying clothes has now become something much harder than it was before especially for women that are very curvy.
I am still learning and understanding my body shape and it is a challenge for me to buy clothes sometimes because the world is making more clothes of the ‘sexy’ look and less for the mature woman
I don’t agree that fashion has been increasingly getting sexier or tighter. Every era has objectified women to some degree. We can look at artwork that depicts women in togas or victorian women with deep decolletes emphasizing the cleavage. Women used corsettes to minimize their waists and showcase hourglass figures. In the 70s there were disco pants and in the eighties I wore leggings with my big shirts and big hair. Their were also skinny jeans and mini skirts. Here in chicago the 90′s look was big pants and a bodysuit which showed off the waist and had a deep scoopneck.
What I do find tough to swallow is the increasing desire of young women to be thought of as objects of lust and sexual desire. Too many pics on fb of young girls with pouty lips, exposed cleavage or worse. Classes for stripper workouts, magazines screaming how to satisfy your man etc. etc.etc.
Given that women have for too long been objectified, it is up to the individual to make the conscious effort to carry ourselves respectfully in spite of the challenges. Time to learn to make my own alterations or find a really great tailor.
It is so good to hear this, I would go to shops to buy outfits and they where all too short or tops too revealing. I started thinking was this really how I used to dress before I knew God and I remember I already thought this even before I came to church and I was a party girl then, the fashion is not made for the elegant woman but for individual who wants to tease.
Yes Mrs Cris its like ladies nowadays when we buy clothes the only thing we think of is to look sexy we forget about our dignity as women
Hi Mrs Cris!
Fashion is dynamic it keeps on changing with time,what I usually do is when I go shopping is I buy what suits me and looks exqusist on me I dont really worry if it’s fashionable or not,otherwise my parents would be bankrupt because it’s not easy keeping up with the latest fashion trends plus it’s not worth it.I t’s like everytime the wind blows a different direction there you are again.
It’s funny cos I went window shopping after work and I saw this sexy blue skinny jeans and it fit me really nice. It was sexy that makes me really want to buy it but there was a voice in my head that says I should not buy it. What kind of image should I create for myself, sexy or elegant and discreet. I chose elegant and discreet and not the seeking-for-attention clothes. I left the store and end up buying a decent blouse which fits me well and also a sale price. When you listen to the voice inside your head, you won’t regret the result. That’s the voice of the Holy Spirit. Thanks Mrs. Cris.
When one goes and buys something from the shop, you should always know what your intentions are by buying that particular item because it will send a certain message to the world.Because when you wear a tight clothes you are sexy.
Fashion has turned into being worldly,in all things that are style of “the moment” if not tight they are too short or anything than showing the body out. So for us who knows that our body is temple of the Holy Spirit we must remain and keep elegant because elegance keeps the woman beautiful still.
Thank you Mrs Cris this has helped me to check what I wear and buy.
Kisses
I didn’t look at the situation that way…the message is an eye opener to me..thanx Mrs. Cristiane
The trends of the world are never preserving but mutilating soits better you choose what is appropriate and will fit well with you andwhat you believe in.
Fashion comes in stores and leaves. But difference does it makes in your life ? Nothing everything goes with how you value yourself.. You can buy jeans and different styles but what value does it impact in you nothing. Value your self and forget about fashion..
That is so true, nowadays hard to find clothes that actually fits you nicely, its a big challenge, just like mrs.cristiane said its either too low or too short, its like these “people” are trying to impose, to tell us what we should or should not wear.
Thank you for sharing this post with us Mrs Cristiane. After reading this post it reminded me of the sexy girls book I had been reading. I was one of those people that loved wearing tight clothes to me it was the fashion. But now when I look back at old pictures I actually think what was I thinking. When I examine why I dressed in this way I realised it was to hide the many complexes I had and to get the attention of men. I stopped valuing myself. However, the moment I started seeking God. I started seeking for the attention of God and automatically I no longer was following the fashion that devalued women or even considering or liking the look of tight clothes anymore.
Thanks for posting. You are right. Sexy is not elegant. Howeve I grew up thinking it was. And that’s the problem. Society today tells women that they have to be promiscuous, sexy, revealing, etc. It really is sad. That was what almost lead to the destruction of my life. Kisses to you. Be blessed beautiful lady.
Thank you so much this helped me a lot ..
We should always be who we are !
May GOD bless you and use you more !:)