Your Own Pace
December 15, 2011 | By: Cristiane Cardoso | Posted in: Behavior, Personal me, Time Management
It had been a 10-hour day flight and so I was exhausted. The unusual pain in the middle of my forehead said everything, I needed a rest and I needed it urgently. But as soon as my husband got out of the plane, he walked so fast, I felt like I was running. I kept calling his name, and the more I complained, the more he’d run. He had an agenda: the night’s church service. ‘Renato’, and another 100 steps ‘Renato’, another 100 steps. ‘Renato’, and POOW, my legs gave in under me and I fell hard on my knees, while managing to hold onto my handbag in mid-air – of course I couldn’t let that touch the floor…
The embarrassment was, well, imagine falling in front of hundreds of people in an airport? It could have all been prevented if I’d just kept my cool. I couldn’t follow him and so I should have walked the pace I could. No rush. This is exactly what happens to us when we’re too eager to do something that is not within our power to do.
We can do all things, but that doesn’t mean that we can do all things now! There’s time for everything. Time to grow up, time to learn from our mistakes, time to feel proud of our achievements, then time to feel ashamed of our mistakes again, and time to look forward.
If you want to be so and so, do what so and so did. It wasn’t done in one day or one week, but on a very long period of time. It’s like building anything, even a toy – it’s one thing at a time.
This is how you can avoid falling and having nowhere to hide your face – just keep up with your own pace.
Cristiane Cardoso
Author of the books "Better than a new pair of shoes", "V woman" and "Casamento Blindado" (Bulletproof Marriage). Founder of "Godllywood" and "Rahab Project". Presenter of "The Love School" at Rede Record.
Wow thank you for sharing.
There is many times we want to do so many things fast and we do fall flat!
I can relate to this…no more rushing!
we need take steps, not running too fast when it is not needed
I hope your knees are you?
x
Another typical example of rushing at other peoples paces is when you see your neighbour driving a car and just because he has one you also go and get it even if means getting it on credit. the fall comes when you cant pay the instalments and the car has to be repossesed, now that is embarassing. Sometimes we are able to reach a certain point but we need to take our own pace otherwise it will turn out badly.
Thank You Mrs Cris,
It is so true everything has its own time, I like the part that you said “we can do all thing, but that doesnt mean we can do all things right now” Thats so true!!,
Lee-Anne
Wow. I have been there and yes is very true. On step at the time. Sometimes we tend to be in a rush which in long road end up getting things things wrong. But I will keep this in mind.
I hope your knees are ok.xxx
WOW ,I just got it….For the past month i have been running at a pace that i ”thought” people expected of me.Showing up for meetings,work,church etc.No time to rest,no time for me and God.Just run run run,Souls need to be saved,things need to be done,The list is long and the time not enough.
So i wake up and say a quick prayer,run out to be on time for work,then its straight to church,attend the ,evangelise, fund raise attend service,tend to my responsibilities at church.Then help clean when everyone’s gone,catch the bus and get home around 23.00.Again its a quick word with God,read the bible and then sleep cause tomorrow i do it all again.
Result=Lack of time (and i mean serious dedicated quality time with GOD)Not bearing much fruit, because if i am worn down and tired how can i expect to do things for my Lord the way they need to be done.Worst is the devil will use this as a perfect opportunity to attact when we are weak.
So now im going back to the source,Seeking for myself first so that when im filed with God i can tackle the rest and actually be a vessel of honour and pass to others from a full cup.No longer gonna run on empty:)
ola amiga o seu programa esta muito bom estou aprendendo muitas coisa
I can also relate to this! I have looked to others and have tried to do what they have done and would then get frustrated with myself for not being able to do it in a certain amount of time. It is very important to know that we should work at our own pace because for each of us God has planned different things…as long as I keep my relationship with Him, He will guide me to the right thing to do at the right time.
Walking in our own pace really helps you as a person spiritually even though other people may be frastrated because they do not see the result they want to see you to produce, I am saying this that because people’s opinions can push you do to things that you see you are not fit for and you usually end up regretting and messing up instead of being a blessing in what you rushed to do.
This is so true and we need to truly know that there is time for everything and we need to walk at our own pace and get things done properly .thank for the message Mrs.Cristiane
This is so true, many times we want to do things fast and all at once, but don’t even come out how we wanted to, but like you said we have to do it at our own pace.
This is so true, I can think how many times I always went on the pace of other people and would feel I let myself down when was not, I gave myself a really hard time because I expected so much of myself comparing to the pace of others.
this particular bit in the blog stood out for me "We can do all things, but that doesn't mean we can do all things now!"
Sandra Ulume
UK, Edmonton
Hilarious! Yes, that's the problem – there are so many people rushing around following others instead of learning and seeking after the person that God wants them to be. Youth is an extremely tough time because we are constantly learning about ourselves, making mistakes, experiencing things that we wish we hadn't… It's difficult learning what I should become and how to get there because this world has defined a certain "success" that has room for everything except God. I don't want to live my life by anyone's standard. Jesus is my standard. Sometimes, even in the church, there are girls who transfer their idolism of celebrities and pop stars to other men and women of God – and that is as equally dangerous. We have to learn from those who are doing well but we should only set our affection on God – the only One Who can change our hearts and knows how much we can bear. It is only when I do this and go at His pace that I feel at peace.
Thank you for the post, Gemma I agree with you.
This is true some times I want to do everything at once and nothing comes out how I wanted it to be so yes we sould go on our own pace.
I can relate to this so well!!! Hope your knee’s better:)
This is so true, sometimes we women forget ourselves and try to become “Mrs. Octopus” – places to go people to see, things to do – and we want to do it ALL at the same time, and only when we hear “BAM!” oh, it’s me hitting something – then we stop, breath, think and decide that: it can wait, tomorrow it’ll still be there. When we decide to put our priorities one day at a time, we are certainly able to do much, much more – because we’re not in a hurry but going at our own pace. We are not ruled by the time but we make time work for us. Donna
Oh Cristiane,
I love the bit about the hand bag, that really is very amusing’(you sausage!)
As for no where to hide my face, well, may be we just get too exhausted to go anywhere. You make a very good point, we can trip up going too fast and sometimes when we trust too much also, we become fabulously happy when God intervenes, and we open our cake holes and it gets pulled down to nothing. but at the end of the day, We continue on knowing what we know to be true, and the people watching us fall over (and trying not to let our handbags touch the floor) don’t pay our bills, or get us through the bad times, it’s our faith in God and He does doesn’t He? As for me, I am truthfully physically having an horrific time with the cold, and am not coping one tiny bit with that and very very frustrated that I could not make it for the fast. And I anticipate, being hit by a high speed train at any time (something in particular) I know dear, faith , faith faith, and it’s very hard to concentrate. Noah took I think about 100 years to build the ark, can you imagine, 100 years of people laughing at you and the family having to put up with all kinds of comments, a long time to keep having faith and I see your point. God bless you loads Treacle X .